Sigh...I think I've just lost it with my aunt. I love my aunt dearly, but I swear she refuses to understand things when I try to talk to her. OK, I was trying to explain to her that I have a lot of problems with how the issue of bullying has been handled, and that, initially, the It Gets Better Campaign was focused a bit too much on being the victim (in part because Dan Savage tends to love to play the victim). It's a common problem in the LGBT Community, in fact. What I felt needed to be said- so I said it- was that it wasn't so much that the bullies go away (because, honestly, they don't), but that you learn to walk the eff away from them. Outside of school, you have a lot more power than you do when you're in school, and so, you can walk away.
Here's the thing, I was bullied a lot in school. I was bullied because 1) everyone thought I was gay 2) I'm overweight 3) I'm a redhead 4) I wear glasses. When I grew up, I found that the bullies didn't go away so much as hide, and that I had the ability to walk away from them or even fight back. I thought that message needed to be said, and that by saying that the bullies go away when they clearly do not just made the whole thing seem too rosy.
My aunt's attitude became clear when she said that the reason why lesbians don't tend to see me as a lesbian is I didn't grow up a lesbian. I just hit a point where I know that I can't talk to her because she doesn't really have a fucking clue about the dynamics involved and isn't willing to listen because she seems to think she 'knows it all' because she hung out with a bunch of gay men for years. Thing is, there's a lot of lesbians who don't grow up lesbian, but come out later in life. They aren't labeled as being not-lesbian because of it.
And, actually, I am pretty well accepted as being a lesbian except for the most extremely narrow-minded groups who equate being born with a penis as being irrevocably male because I AM so female.
There was a girl who had a little curl right in the middle of her forehead, and when she was good, she was very, very good, and when she was bad she was homicidal.
I am a lizard woman from the dawn of time, and this is my wife.