Lia S wrote:I wonder if tetrisexuality is a thing.
PrometheanSky wrote:Us lurkers are just coming out of the woodwork over this one.
I'm always shocked just how far down the chain of prejudice goes. Gays turn on bisexuals. Bisexuals give transgenders grief. trans people villainize (if there's an easy term, I don't know it) people who mentally identify as the opposite gender, but are comfortable in their bodies.
Artemisia wrote:A lot of the push back against bisexuals comes from the fact that they tend to be used as examples of how being gay or lesbian is a choice. For women, who have a far more complex sexuality than men do (as per the research done), this is especially problematic since many women can be fairly fluid in their sexuality preferring women or men to differing degrees. Women have a tendency to prefer specific types of people depending on their short term or long term goals, and that can change a lot over time too. The research shows that women are more likely to be bisexual the lesbian or straight.
Oh, I definitely understand why it gets flack, and to some degree, I even sympathize with it. Biphobia is a symptom of a largely heteronormative and sexually repressive society, but I don't think that it's fair for those in the LGBT community to bash each other. It doesn't really help us.
And I know it's more than just who you sleep with, but haven't you ever met those people who take one part of themselves and make it to be the most important part or the only relevant part? I've mostly run into it with the LGBT community in Lesbians that won't date Bisexuals because "they like boys, so we have nothing in common". (Yes, I've had to argue that one with a women, despite that we had many of the same interests, beliefs, etc...)
It's not just the LGBT community though, I also get annoyed at people who do it with other aspects of their life. For example, in my personal experience, I get annoyed at people whose life is completely centered around their religion. Growing up it was in the LDS church that I ran into it the most with, but it always strikes me as annoying and very sad.
I mean, I'm bisexual, I'm a writer, I'm Buddhist, I'm a gamer etc, these are things that define me, but they aren't me. I don't know. Saying that one part of you is your identity seems like a cop-out to me. Like they're afraid to be themselves, or to be an individual, so they pick one thing and that's them.
But it is one of those things that gets me riled up because, like I said, personal experience being surrounded by it outside of the LGBT community.
Hah, sorry, another mini-rant. >.> *hides*
Adrishiana wrote:I think this storyline would make more sense if it was something that was undoubtedly biphobia (such as Lisa losing a friend or being dumped because of her sexuality), not "Lisa's massive entitlement and privilege issues combined with complete failure to do any research whatsoever get in her way, and she is asked to leave a space she has, unintentionally or not, invaded (and then sulks about it for days)."
Alice Macher wrote:Adrishiana wrote:I think this storyline would make more sense if it was something that was undoubtedly biphobia (such as Lisa losing a friend or being dumped because of her sexuality), not "Lisa's massive entitlement and privilege issues combined with complete failure to do any research whatsoever get in her way, and she is asked to leave a space she has, unintentionally or not, invaded (and then sulks about it for days)."
For the record, it's been less than one day.
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