...It can cause me real conflict to receive focus on the female parts of my anatomy. I have a well-meaning, dear friend, who kept inadvertently causing this by praising and emphasizing my female traits, every time I tried to get them out of focus. But I never outright told her "please stop focusing on this; you're making me feel worse, not better". We had constant miscommunications because of my difficulties getting past my awkwardness to be open about exactly what my feelings were, and my friend's assuming that my constant dismissal of my body was due to low self esteem, based on her experience with other friends.
So watching this situation with Chrissie and Lisa through the goggles of my own experience, it seems to me that what Chrissie would have needed to say was (in one or other way) "please don't remind me I have a penis; I'm really not happy about that". But her starting note sounds more like she's worried about Lisa's reaction. While it would have prevented a lot of trouble if Lisa had given her a follow-up question or two instead of answering to that first stumbling attempt, it would also have prevented trouble if Chrissie had been clear about what her real worries were.
Then, judging her like I know myself, Chrissie probably felt afraid to miss out on this altogether if she didn't meet Lisa's expectations, and /or got carried away in general. But that worry isn't Lisa's to carry. Chrissie could have told her she wants to have sex like a woman - using anything but her "male parts" - assuming that's what caused her regret the morning after.
I think what I'm trying to say is, I feel that while there would have been things either of them could have done that would have made the next morning less distressing, I can't see that anyone was acting really neglectful or running the other over. Unfortunate misunderstandings that could have been avoided, yes, but nothing "stupid" or clean-cut wrong.
And they're still both being adorable together in so many ways, I really really hope they get to meet again and at least sort this out, somehow. Plus I want to see more of Chrissie's character and know if she will be all right.