Captain LeBubbles wrote:Sara wasn't being all that disrespectful
That completely depends on your point of view. Eastern views of respect are very, very different from Western ones. When I was younger, I had a Fillipino babysitter. I never quite meant to be, but I was occasionally what she viewed as "disrespectful." Fortunately, she had also had a long-term exposure to how American children are (seeing as she and her husband had adopted a couple of them), so she was able to be patient and help me understand why she considered it disrespectful, instead of instantly going right to "you are showing disrespect and I will not have it!" I would venture to say that Iseul, despite having had Sara around this long, still just can't wrap her head around "my child has not grown up with the same restrictions I have, and does not understand the freedom she has to even talk to me this way. Perhaps I should help her understand why I feel disrespected." It's a shame that Iseul is, as you've noted, trapped by her ways of thinking.
Think of her as (from our points of view) a brainwashing victim. She was raised to see things very plainly, in very stark ("black and white", even?) terms. It takes a large amount of inner strength to ever come around to admitting, even just to oneself, that the old way might have ever been flawed in the minutest of ways. If she were to really come out and admit all of this to herself - what effect might that end up having on her life? To say nothing of the lives of Sara and Theo. She could be denying herself because she doesn't want to hurt them.