Artemisia wrote:FlyingFish wrote:Even for straight couples, the person physically on top is not always the sexual "aggressor" (and the "aggressor" is definitely not always physically on top, as some like to change positions purely for variety's sake).
Typically, the 'top' is the person who is on 'top'. This can be a bit difficult to determine, though. There are fifteen sexual positions that I know of where the person on the bottom is the aggressor or the person performing the most actions, or the couple are on their side. That's about twice as many positions I know of compared to those that use strap ons.
Yes; this was what I'm confused with, somewhat. One doesn't always choose to keep penetrating or being penetrated all the time.
But what about identity? -- oh.
I personally treat "top" and "bottom" as shorthand, like "got to second base", rather than a reflection of some physical reality.
Background dump #1; yaoi terms 'seme' and 'uke' are often interchangeable with 'top' and 'bottom' or 'dominant' and 'submissive' respectively, etymology aspect aside; but I've found out that the nuances are...different. Not only that, they have related 'roles' in play; not only in bed, but in life / the plot in question.
Background dump #2 ; a lot of gay people in my place are often.....strict, as far as roles are concerned (the irony are delicious). AFAIK, they are using 'top' and 'bottom' and 'versatile' as identity, essentially. I feel an invisible hand that says 'oh, so you like Lady Gaga, slim, loves to cook and waif-like? YOU MUST LIKE BEING PRODDED BY THICK JUICY MEAT." The same for the 'tops'.
I guess I'm confusing the contexts and meaning around the word. So it may be safe to assume that 'topping' or 'bottoming' in this case, are to be treated as an by-case occurrence, as opposed to 'identity'?
Then what sort of 'top' are we talking here, about Sara?
If topping as in, in bed; it is a possibility. Pent up Sara is pent up.
If topping as in, in 'life'; I somewhat doubt it. Not now, at least.
On the subject of the strip- I think that Sara's being rather naive, honestly. The LGBT Community can be pretty cut throat.
Well, I guess that's part of college life, isn't it? Sara's perspective of 'LGBT community' has always been....pretty close.
Aggie, Lisa, Penny, Katy-Ann; it's personal friendship rather than, a sense of community.
I can see why Sara is a little bit naive as far as clashes inside a community are concerned.