Cabbagehut wrote:Personally, I'm bisexual, and I've run into the biphobia argument the most from other GLBTQ people. Generally not the B part, though! I don't think that Leah's rant is necessarily biphobia. I think it probably is, based on her behavior, but the argument can still be made that there are definitely people who capitalize on the perceived eroticness of being "bisexual", but really just being in it for the dudes.
I take most of these characters to be in their late teens and early 20s, and this might be the first time where they've really been able to express their sexuality, particularly if they had unsupportive parents. My friends and I at university kind of joked about how the first time you get into that "safe" world, you go a little hog wild. Lots of people who were fresh out of the closet would only watch movies about gay people, only go to gay dances, listen to gay-friendly artists, and the "breeders" are your sworn enemies, etc. It's part of getting to know that part of your identity, and it usually lessens with time. You're separating yourself from the parts of the world that at best, don't pay attention, and at worst, hurt you.
Leah might still be in the stage where non-gay people are not to be trusted. It's an unfortunate phase. It tends to come from feeling alienated, worrying about being "outed", worrying about being used as titillation fodder for some dude (which happened a lot to my lesbian friends, and it made them very wary of girls who claimed to be "bisexual", fair or not), and being judged. Leah really shouldn't be so quick to assume that Lisa's doing it for attention, but that pattern of behavior does fit really well with Lisa. She does a lot of things for the attention; why would her sexuality be any different? Especially if she's in (what Leah thinks) is a committed relationship?
I do think Leah's being too extreme, and she's acting like a jerk, but I don't think her suspicion is necessarily unfounded.
I agree. I in no way support biphobia or the rude, inappropriate way that Leah handled the situation (not to mention lying about it to Sara afterward), but it seems to me that the problem of "fauxmosexuals" is a real one. People who are "experimenting" because that are questioning, or unsure, or just trying to figure themselves out are fine. But there are definitely people (usually women, in my experience) in college who engage in homosexual behavior to attract the opposite sex, which is the sex they're actually into. I can certainly see why someone who is gay, who has probably been persecuted for their identity and had to dal with a lot of crap, being really really angry that these other people just step into the role so that they can further their heterosexual relationships. It seems disrespectful, and even if it's up to the individual in question to do whatever they want in general (after all, it's a free country), I understand why someone would have a problem with it in a lesbian fraternity/sorority/whatever-word-we're-using-here.
Again, though, none of that excuses Leah's behavior. There are far better ways to handle the situation, including just dealing with it at a rush party where all that's happening is people are checking out the various options and will only be able to join if you invite them back.