The unofficial bad day thread.

[Valerie]

He's helping me with repairs on our house, though I do help him with his jobs from time to time. I appreciate everything he's doing for us, but at the same time, he pisses me off so much.

The way my boss worded his text was that he's "okay" and will be there tomorrow. But I don't know if "okay" means "there's nothing wrong" or if it means "there is something wrong but I will be at work anyway."

And my husband... just... asgahgsagh. You know how it is. We don't have insurance for him yet (we can apply at the end of the month-- so close!), so the best we can do is over-the-counter pain medicines. He uses a lot of Excedrin PM and off-brand Aleve. The Excedrin PM is so he can sleep for a half-decent amount of time every few nights. Otherwise he hurts too much and wakes up a lot.

Hopefully we'll be able to get him something proper for his condition once we 1) are sure what the condition even is and 2) have his insurance in order. There's a decent chance he'll need surgery, so we have to wait until we have insurance or it'll count as a pre-existing condition, in which case we'd have to wait another six months for it to be covered. And that's if they'll even DO surgery on him, since he's diabetic.

I have been informed that Canada probably doesn't want us or I'd be packing instead of typing right now.

[Otaking]

he'll need surgery,

-Be damned careful. You only have one body. Lawsuits don't fix anything.
-Don't be impressed by a doctor's ability to maintain a 3.0 grade average in some Guatamalan med school.
-Get a second and third opinion if at all possible.

[Valerie]

he'll need surgery,

-Be damned careful. You only have one body. Lawsuits don't fix anything.
-Don't be impressed by a doctor's ability to maintain a 3.0 grade average in some Guatamalan med school.
-Get a second and third opinion if at all possible.

Oh, we will definitely take precautions. And again, this is if they'll even operate on him. Diabetics have terrible immune systems, so the risk of infection is much higher. Thank you very much for the advice, though.

(And it's... well, obviously it is serious, but it's a problem with his foot. So I imagine the worst possible outcome, other than possibility of infection, is that he might lose his foot. Which is horrible if you're used to having feet, don't get me wrong, but it's better than a lot of other things.)

[Lia S]

*hugs Val* Whoa. Whoever is turning (and/or sucking) the knobs on Val's life, please try the other better. Like turning the other left, you know?

*hugs everyone else*

[Valerie]

XD Thanks, Lia. <3

Ffff, so, uh, today I worked fourteen-and-a-half hours. That was awesome.

I had something that looked like a break if you squint a little. Eating behind the counter halfway through your shift isn't something the health department smiles about, but I didn't have much choice. And I can only estimate how much caffeine I've ingested since eight this morning. (One cup of coffee, two and a half lattes, and one mocha, if I counted right.)

On the bright side: Six-and-a-half hours of overtime so far this week.

On the less bright side: The reason I was there so long? The lady that was supposed to work was in an accident. She has an abusive boyfriend, which I just found out about today. 90% sure these two things are related. She spent all day in the hospital and didn't even get a chance to call until 8:30-ish tonight. (She was supposed to be at work at 10:30 AM.)

I will be working for her tomorrow and probably Sunday. I don't mind covering it for her, considering the reasons. And my boss talked to her. He's going to talk to the other owners and, hopefully, they'll keep her on. She's generally a good worker, and this was clearly not her fault, but one of the owners is unsympathetic to "a woman who keeps going back to a man that hits her," because some people are dumbfuck, privileged morons that have clearly never dealt with abuse of any kind. (Not that I want people to deal with abuse, but holy shit, empathy fail.) (What possibly makes it worse? The owner who feels this way is the only woman out of the three owners. Nightmare fuel, fuck.)

[Artemisia]

Actually, Valerie, that makes sense. There are a lot of women who have risen to such levels can be really bitchy towards women who aren't willing to fight hard and walk away. They don't tend to understand how many women have been kind of pushed and pressured and trained to go back to those who are abusive- men and women.

Other than that, I'm really bitchy today. I really want to just scream because I hurt so much and feel so bad.

However, I am enjoying some prime anime...or at least something that makes me happy

[Valerie]

Actually, Valerie, that makes sense. There are a lot of women who have risen to such levels can be really bitchy towards women who aren't willing to fight hard and walk away. They don't tend to understand how many women have been kind of pushed and pressured and trained to go back to those who are abusive- men and women.

Slavery made sense, too. That didn't make it okay.

It sickens me that someone can blame the victim like that. Should she get out of her situation? Yes, of course! Can she get out of her situation? Probably not, and maybe for varying factors. Maybe she doesn't have the financial means to support herself without his help. Maybe she was abused as a child and never learned that it was wrong. Just because I don't let myself get slapped around by a guy doesn't mean I lack the ability to understand why someone else does.

(And I know you're not blaming her, Art. I'm complaining about my boss, not about you.)

In short, Val might have to punch a bitch. (lol get it cuz were talkin bout abuse okay it's actually not funny at all I'm sorry.)

[Artemisia]

Oh, I know. Sigh...I do this all the time. I seem to have forgotten to explain or show that while I understand the boss' thinking, I don't excuse it. Your coworker should try to get out of that situation, but I know it isn't easy. It takes a lot of courage and a lot of strength, and she will get out of it when she's ready.

I can always wish that it wasn't so with her, but at the same time, I understand her fear.

I don't know if this makes sense. . .I really hate this time for me. . .I swear I can't write properly or think things through properly!

[Valerie]

No no no, I understood you. I just needed to rant about it some more and was using your post as an excuse to do so. XD

[Artemisia]

No worries then

Sigh...right now I want to rant about something else, but probably shouldn't.

I just rewrote a scene in my novel. I decided to take out some of my own personal frustrations in my writing.

[Otaking]

Code of Federal Regulations
Title 29 - LaborVolume: 3Date: 2010-07-01Original Date: 2010-07-01Title: Section 825.114 - Inpatient care.Context:
Title 29 - Labor. Subtitle B - Regulations Relating to Labor (Continued). CHAPTER V - WAGE AND HOUR DIVISION, DEPARTMENT OF LABOR. SUBCHAPTER C - OTHER LAWS. PART 825 - THE FAMILY AND MEDICAL LEAVE ACT OF 1993. Subpart A - Coverage Under the Family and Medical Leave Act.

§ 825.114
Inpatient care.

Inpatient care means an overnight stay in a hospital, hospice, or residential medical care facility, including any period of incapacity as defined in § 825.113(b), or any subsequent treatment in connection with such inpatient care.

If your friend wanted to push it, FMLA law would protect her if she ends up with an overnight stay. I tried to see if the law also covered all day stays but it has shitty wording. You might drop that on the owners if you need to, likely to just shut them up without them drilling all the way down to the overnight part.

[Valerie]

Honestly, I might just threaten to quit if they fire her. I know that the guy she was supposed to be working with is going to, and he's one of the two cooks (out of all three stores). Plus, let's be honest, my store is screwed without me and the boss knows it. Hell, we're short-staffed as it is. My store doesn't have a dishwasher at the moment, and the store that G (the lady I covered for) and T (the cook I mentioned) would be down to one kitchen person if T quit, and down to like two front-of-house people if they fired G.

But it is good to know that there could be legal issues as well as ethical issues. That makes me feel a little more confident that they won't fire her, if only for the fact that they probably can't. She informed me when she called that she has the paperwork to show that she was in the hospital, so she can prove everything if she needs to.

[Artemisia]

It sounds like you guys are just one disaster away from collapsing.

Right now, all I want to do is whine.

[Valerie]

Right now, all I want to do is whine.

That's what this thread is for, silly.
*hugs*

[Artemisia]

HUGS.

I just feel about as sexy as a plank and I am so tired right now.