Black Cat Godess wrote:So now, I've had to talk about what's happened several times, feel like a horrible person when the word "harassment" gets tossed around even though I'm the one who's on the receiving end, feel like an even MORE horrible person for not saying anything before now, feel like the WORST PERSON EVER for not ever saying "I'm not cool with this, please stop" to him, and just all around feel bad because my brain keeps running off thinking this might get the guys fired. Note, he has not been fired, just saw him again today though thankfully I don't think he saw me.
I've had similar situations, though that was more in high school than in the working world for me.
Thing is, if you say something, people act like you're being too sensitive. You're not. You have the right to a comfortable work environment. But this thought that you're being too sensitive leads you to never say anything (or to wait a long time before saying something) because you're conditioned to believe that you're the one at fault.
Don't feel bad for not saying something sooner. It's a socialization thing, one that we desperately need to get rid of. If you tell someone to leave you alone, they should leave you alone. If you even seem uncomfortable, they should take the hint and leave you alone. (If other coworkers could pick up on it, I refuse to believe that he couldn't.)
Not to mention it's just plain rude to ask a lady's name without first giving your own. Chivalry is so dead.
Don't feel bad for standing up for yourself, and don't feel bad for taking so long to stand up for yourself. If it keeps up, ask a manager to talk to him or something. That sort of behavior isn't (and shouldn't be) acceptable.