The unofficial bad day thread.

[Lia S]

Can I have some of yours? I'm an A cup right now

Get in line, I'm a... wait, what letter goes before A?

[Black Cat Godess]

Man, I would love it if I could go from the nice big boobs with the fantastic cleavage to a so small I could pass for a slightly chubby boy at will. Among other things, it would mean I wouldn't have to wear a t-shirt with my swimsuit because otherwise my boobs would fall out. *poutyface* Trust me, you're not missing anything but back problems and chest pain. Oh, and they get in my way when I'm drawing- my options are either press them up against the edge of my desk or lay them on top of it. And to get them to behave during the day I have to wear a bra that's just way too big to be comfortable.

So in short, yes, if there was some feasible way that I could transfer some of my boob size away to you, you would be welcome to it.

I'll need to get rid of the ass, too, without the boobs it'd just look disproportionate.

Le Bubbles, if you think DDD's are bad, try being a FF or G sometime. I get guys staring at my chest when I'm wearing a plain T-shirt! I feel your pain, Bubbles. I'm lucky on that I don't have back pain, but still, sometimes I wish I was smaller. At least the boyfriend likes them and doesn't make me feel bad for having large knockers.

[Artemisia]

Come on, people! A bad day thread is not supposed to cheer me up!

So anyway, I'm having the worst day of this trip today. Not only did I get sunburnt... You know what, I'll save you from long and uninteresting story and just state my new realization.
All men are dicks.
And yes, that is including myself. (That is especially myself, in fact.)
I think that if we weren't quite necessary for reproduction, human race would be much better off without us.

It's not often that someone gives me such a perfect opening to quote Coupling, but by gum I'll take any chance I get.

"Men- and I don't mean to generalize- are CRAP! They're the human race's only failed gender. Who needs them? And why are they so difficult to keep hold of? Do you think they realize, that if not for the genetic imperative to populate the Earth, they wouldn't get a date? That's one hell of an inducement. No pressure, girls, but shag one of these or it's curtains for all humankind! That's harassment."

(There's more to that, but I've quoted the relevant-this-conversation bit.)

AH...Coupling One of my favorite shows actually I think my favorite quote is:

Women want someone with command, with confidence, someone who won't take "no" for an answer. We want somebody arrogant and gorgeous, with a terrifying sexual appetite and an amazing range of sexual technique. ... But when it comes down to it, we'll settle for a man.

Can I have some of yours? I'm an A cup right now

Get in line, I'm a... wait, what letter goes before A?

Training bras (on a serious note, I usually wear sports bras)

[NobodySpecial]

At least the boyfriend likes them and doesn't make me feel bad for having large knockers.

I would hope that boyfriends around the world would refuse to make their girlfriends feel bad about their bodies. I have to wonder at women who DO stay with guys like that.

[Captain LeBubbles]

Come on, people! A bad day thread is not supposed to cheer me up!

So anyway, I'm having the worst day of this trip today. Not only did I get sunburnt... You know what, I'll save you from long and uninteresting story and just state my new realization.
All men are dicks.
And yes, that is including myself. (That is especially myself, in fact.)
I think that if we weren't quite necessary for reproduction, human race would be much better off without us.

It's not often that someone gives me such a perfect opening to quote Coupling, but by gum I'll take any chance I get.

"Men- and I don't mean to generalize- are CRAP! They're the human race's only failed gender. Who needs them? And why are they so difficult to keep hold of? Do you think they realize, that if not for the genetic imperative to populate the Earth, they wouldn't get a date? That's one hell of an inducement. No pressure, girls, but shag one of these or it's curtains for all humankind! That's harassment."

(There's more to that, but I've quoted the relevant-this-conversation bit.)

AH...Coupling One of my favorite shows actually I think my favorite quote is:

Women want someone with command, with confidence, someone who won't take "no" for an answer. We want somebody arrogant and gorgeous, with a terrifying sexual appetite and an amazing range of sexual technique. ... But when it comes down to it, we'll settle for a man.

My favorite quote is everything Jeff says ever.

[Lia S]

At least the boyfriend likes them and doesn't make me feel bad for having large knockers.

I would hope that boyfriends around the world would refuse to make their girlfriends feel bad about their bodies. I have to wonder at women who DO stay with guys like that.

I'm sure there are many who stay with guys like that because of self esteem issues, which are then made worse by those guys, which makes the women even more likely to stay with those guys, etcetera. BUT. I've learned not every woman who says her partner made her feel bad is speaking the complete truth. I don't remember the conversation word for word but it was something like this:

me: *hugs* You're so hugable.
her: Do you mean soft?
me: Hmmm... you ARE soft. *hugs*
her: You think I'm fat.
me: I don't think you're fat.
her: But I am fat.
me: I like your body as it is, and I like it even more because it is yours.
her: I am too fat.
me: ... Um... well I suppose your BMI is higher than healthy, but that makes you too fat from the point of view of a doctor, not from mine.
her: What if I gained weight? Would you mind?
me: *joking* If you got so heavy you couldn't breathe anymore, you would die, and I would mind that. But I don't think you could manage to gain that much weight even if you tried.
her: Your love isn't unconditional! *cries*
me:

I'm pretty sure she later told her friends I said she is fat and made her cry.

Back then I didn't have the confidence to tell a girlfriend "Stop that."

[Trefle]

Ah; the secret plea for approval / reassurance / praise. That's...
...yeah, sad.

Sigh, ladies. Don't make my even more anxious on going 'out' and finding a boyfriend-- I'm already too paranoid as it is now! Finding someone that seemed sane and accepting is hard enough....

/whinebegin
Yesterday, browsing through a local (somewhat, it's mostly popular with local) gay dating site; I found one that write things that ended like this: "AND THE MOST IMPORTANT IS, ANTI FEMINISM!!!!!"
Me : "WHAT THE WHAT."
I'm quite sure what he meant is feminine gays; if he meant what he wrote, though..DUDE.
The funny thing is, he doesn't even look 'manly' or 'masculine' within a heteronormative standard, much less a 'gay' standard; thin, twink-like body, a 'meh' face and such.
The sad thing is, it's the common belief present in most gays in my place. Almost every Joe
I understand -why-, but.......I thought GLBTQ people know more than others (esp. recently) how it feels to be excluded, demeaned, being told that they didn't fit 'the standard' and thus undesirable?...why?
I suppose that's reality.

That, and looking at my friends. All were-- going confidently to the path of--
...drama.
I'd told them, but each of them seems confident enough to not stop.
I think I know a little how Lisa must have felt about Sara going SO INTENTLY towards Fiona back then.
Should one stop ? Should one just sit and watch it unravels? Should one try even more; because they are friends, after all. Close friends.
/whineclose

[Artemisia]

Well...believe it or not, some of the strongest misogynists that I've met are gay men. There is this strong anti-female sentiment among some gay men that makes my misandry seem tame.

I guess at least I'm not saying how all men should be killed these days

I do have to say that I am scared about finding a girlfriend, but I guess we all are a bit scared of dating, huh?

[Trefle]

Well..
There is just this assumption happening inside that when in relationship one is expected to... show oneself as they are. Trust, honesty, and all the ideals.

*cue me OMGing*

So yeah. Of course, a huge part of this is just me bitching over the slightest inconvenience.

[Zanosuke Kurosaki]

but I guess we all are a bit scared of dating, huh?

Everyone is. It's because an inescapable part of the process is that you have to open yourself up to the other at some point, and in doing so you are giving them tremendous power that they could use to hurt you - and honestly hoping and trusting that they won't.

[Valerie]

At least the boyfriend likes them and doesn't make me feel bad for having large knockers.

I would hope that boyfriends around the world would refuse to make their girlfriends feel bad about their bodies. I have to wonder at women who DO stay with guys like that.

Well, there's also the matter of people who make you feel bad on accident. 'Course, if they're worth your time, they apologize like crazy once they realize they've upset you.

Trefle, Artemisia, you wanna blow some gay guys' minds? (Yes, minds. Get yours out of the gutter, by the way.) Point out that they are feminists by going against traditional gender roles. >_>

Sort of on that note, Hexr, men are not all womanizing jerks. Some of them are. And a lot of them act that way because they think it'll help them fit in with the other guys. But there are good guys in the world, too. I'm sure you're one of them.

Also, while we're sharing, I'm a B-cup. I can feel your envy from way over here. (Big enough to be noticeable and small enough to not constantly be in the way.)
My older sister has GIGANTIBOOBS. I have no idea what size, but like, ridiculously big. Like, if I try to hug her, there's too much boob in the way.

[Artemisia]

Well..
There is just this assumption happening inside that when in relationship one is expected to... show oneself as they are. Trust, honesty, and all the ideals.

*cue me OMGing*

So yeah. Of course, a huge part of this is just me bitching over the slightest inconvenience.

Well, I tend to wear my Self on my sleeve, and I guess I'm always scared that people will hate me for who I am because no one has ever liked me for who I am, at least growing up no one did.

I can be crass, bitchy, whiny, self-centered, mean, thoughtless, loving, kind, nice. . .you know- human. I'm just not a fully nice person most of the time, though.

[Lia S]

Ah; the secret plea for approval / reassurance / praise. That's...
...yeah, sad.

Especially when the one asking for approval/etc is unable to recognize approval/etc because she's depressed. Then there's basically nothing you can do (except encouraging her to find a therapist if she doesn't already have one). In the end I gave in to the part of me that said "LEAVE", which for my own sanity I should have done much sooner. It still felt like a rotten thing to do and to be honest it was more luck than wisdom because at that time I had no idea what I was doing anymore.

Anyway, there's a good side to all of this, dating doesn't seem so scary anymore now.

[Captain LeBubbles]

I'm with you, Artemisia. I wear my heart on my sleeve, but every time someone realizes that they just use it as a weapon. It's made me very jaded and cynical about people which is part of where my trust issues lie. My best friend is the only one who's ever really learned how to read me so easily (because once you realize how much of myself I don't hide, it's easy) that hasn't hurt me as a result and I think that's part of why I've fallen for her. To be honest, I'm a little surprised that she hasn't already figured it out.

That said, I have learned in the past years how to use my heart-on-my-sleeve tendency to my advantage. I can be sneaky and subtle if necessary and people are so used to my 'Captain LeBubbles: Not Subtle, coming this Summer to a theatre near you' persona that they never even think that I might be manipulating their reactions. Which only makes me feel like I'm always being untrustworthy and manipulative when I'm open about things, which leads to me trying too hard to not reveal anything, only by trying to hard I achieve the opposite affect, which in the end creates a positive feedback loop that has eventually led to me being the sort of person who will tell you all the trivial little things that don't matter while keeping the important stuff bottled up to deal with on my own.

Um. That comment kinda got away from me a bit. I'm not sure what point I started out making anymore. :|

[Kamino Neko]

Get in line, I'm a... wait, what letter goes before A?

AA, just like with batteries, FTR.

And, yeah, the fishing for reassurance thing is frustrating. An ex and I both did it to each other. Oddly, it didn't contribute that much to our being exes...